12 Boyfriend Rules

1. Always pick him up from the airport. Don’t drive by and pick him up. Be there when he comes down the stairs. Anyone who’s seen Love Actually knows how important this is.

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2. Sometimes leaving him alone for a bit is the best love you can give.

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3. Even if he says he doesn’t like flowers. Give them anyway.

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4. No matter how annoying…ALWAYS say good things about his family. Even if he doesn’t. At least for the first year.

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5.  Cooking him dinner is the best gift you can give. Anything that shows you worked your butt off just for him.

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6. Sometimes you don’t need to give any advice. Don’t ever say “well you should have…”. Just listen, support him and say “it’ll be ok”.

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7. If he says he doesn’t want help. He doesn’t. He probably wants to impress you. Let him.

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8. When in an argument don’t bring other people’s opinions into it. “My Mom thinks…”, “Dana at work thinks…”. They only “think”. They don’t “know”. This is YOUR relationship. Only you two know the whole story. Others don’t.

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9. Ask what you can do in bed that would make him crazy. Even if he says there’s nothing…he has something.

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10. If he has a favorite movie. Even if you don’t like it. Watch it with him a couple of times, and keep your negative opinions to yourself.

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11. Celebrate his birthday. No matter what he says.

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12. On second thought cooking BREAKFAST is the best thing you can do for him.

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-Aaron Smallets

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118 thoughts on “12 Boyfriend Rules

  1. So accurate. I regret letting my mouth get ahead of me in discerning the moral truth of an argument rather than caring for their needs. Being “morally right” is not worth it, especially if he needs your support. Thanks for this!

  2. My mistake was not giving him his space and that is the most common mistakes!! Live and learn!! I miss him tho :-)….. And I love him!! Always have and always will!! What an awesome post!! Thanks

    • Because it doesn’t ;-). That article referred to a moral issue. Not something like “is it bad that he doesn’t say thank you when I bring him coffee” And even if it did. The Tom Daley article doesn’t say they have to listen to me. And I’m pretty sure they’re not arguing about their age difference since it’s something they can’t change. “Tom…why are you sooo young!!!?? I just read an article that said you should be older!!” <<<won't happen.

  3. cool, i have been in a relationship for over a year now. knowing this thing would give me enough knowledge on how to make him love me everyday! whaha

  4. Well we’ve been married 8 years now. Some other good ones.

    1. Never goto bed on an argument.
    2. Never belittle so say anything mean or bitchy.
    3. Share each other’s dreams and help make them come true.
    4. Accept that you’re both human and will make mistakes.
    5. If you really love each other, there are no hurdles in life that you can’t work out together.

  5. Quite true these 12. If u adhere to them consistently u will find urslf approaching The-Perfect-BF status (with tons of bonus sex lol)

  6. I’ve never had any of these so I can only imagine. The article really upset me but it’s only because I haven’t experienced any of it yet. Just one for 7 weeks that I don’t know if I can even call one. Maybe the future will be brighter than the last 20 years I’ve been out. #onecanhope

    • My dear Bill, as a man in a 22 year relationship, I can tell you from experience that love will find you when you aren’t looking for it and least expect it. That’s how it always seems to happen. Don’t shut yourself off, don’t force it, just be open to what comes your way. Don’t question it when it does, and definitely don’t try to steer it, just go for the ride and see where it takes you.
      Much love
      John

  7. Some great advice there! I might add that many of us did not learn relationship skills from our parents. Taking personal growth courses can fix that. Looking back, I realize that both of my parents were in emotional straight jackets. They never knew how to express affection for each other or how to ” fight fairly” 🙂 ….. both are critical skills.

  8. Very cute list. I have told people before that the fastest way to my heart is #1. I remember the times someone has done that.

    One thing I thought I’d point out in case you make more in future – the photos all feature people who are white and conventionally good-looking. Some more variety of types of bodies would be nice to see. (And I say this as a white athletic guy, just so you know it’s not sour grapes.) Just an observation that a lot of people won’t see themselves reflected in these pics.

  9. Very, very wise. How many could-have-been relationships have I ruined by not doing the essence of what you’re talking about – respect and value him for the unique and irreplaceable person that he is. Finally learned my lesson – at age 71. Long time coming…

  10. I didn’t look for it for 11 years. I turned to food, socially isolated…just going to work, home, out to movies with a friend from work. I didn’t look for it. I never expect it. I decided in 2011 after gaining 165 lbs over those years I would lose weight. I’m now thinner than I’ve ever been in my life. I am 191 lbs (6’3″) and am putting myself out there. It’s like coming out for the first time but I feel so behind and don’t know anything about dating, sex, etc.. I am still very much the 420 lb man I grew to become who felt unloved by gay culture as a 255 lb man in 2002 so I turned to food. I’ve heard that cliche don’t look for it. If I don’t, I don’t really socialize cos then I see other couples out and it makes me feel badly about myself. At the age of 45, being out 20 years I’m just very frustrated that I’ve waited too late. I lost the weight so I would not have to settle for being alone. Now it’s almost like I did it for nothing since the reason I did it wasn’t for physical health but mental health.

    • You haven’t waited too late. Meeting someone does not happen every time you go out to buy groceries ! Don’t give up ! 45 is certainly not old, and if the photo you post is any indication, you are a good-looking dude. Continue putting yourself out there, keep fit and keep a positive attitude. Good luck to you !

    • Believe me. I understand everything you wrote. My weight has gone up and down a lot over the years. My first relationship was for 12 years. My second was for 14 years and my ex and I are friends. I’m 48 and feel more lone than I ever have. As for dating. I am very much out of touch. I don’t have a clue. I just try to be myself. I agree with you. It is hard not to be frustrated. Good luck, I am there with you. Michael

    • @Bill Pardue Jr … What you said hits home. I’m in that same place that you were. I gave up. I have the 2nd half of my life left and my desire is for it to be good. My time is know to start pulling myself up again.

      “I didn’t look for it for 11 years. I turned to food, socially isolated…just going to work, home, out to movies with a friend from work. I didn’t look for it. I never expect it. I decided in 2011 after gaining 165 lbs over those years I would lose weight. I’m now thinner than I’ve ever been in my life. I am 191 lbs (6’3″) and am putting myself out there. It’s like coming out for the first time but I feel so behind and don’t know anything about dating, sex, etc.. I am still very much the 420 lb man I grew to become who felt unloved by gay culture as a 255 lb man in 2002 so I turned to food. I’ve heard that cliche don’t look for it. If I don’t, I don’t really socialize cos then I see other couples out and it makes me feel badly about myself. At the age of 45, being out 20 years I’m just very frustrated that I’ve waited too late. I lost the weight so I would not have to settle for being alone. Now it’s almost like I did it for nothing since the reason I did it wasn’t for physical health but mental health.”

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  12. I was once going on a trip to the South Pacific, I invited him to go. He said no! And I should not go! I said I was going! He said I may not be here when you come back. I said make sure the doors are locked when you leave. No communication when I was away. Upon arrival at LAX, his shiny smiling face was there when I descended from Customs! With Flowers and a great big kiss. and a great big I am glad you are home in his pants! He never let me leave again without going with me!

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