1. “It’s Your Destiny”
There is no force in the sky that has pre chosen what you’re supposed to do with your life. Only in the last two hundred years have we actually had careers that could justify this. Dream careers like celebrities, news reporters, documentary makers, interior designers did not exist until just the last century. Before that it was farmers and carpenters and many other crappy jobs that didn’t involve creativity. Trust me there is no God that said “This person will be the inventor of Hot Pockets”.
2. “Love Is All You Need”
Yes, both in life and relationships love is very important. I’m not that bitter. So often, however, people think that this alone will keep their relationships alive. For a couple like John Lennon and Yoko Ono, saying “Love is all you need” is very convenient when you live in a huge Park Avenue Apartment with no children. That butterfly in your stomach, goosebumps on your skin, will fade at some point, and be replaced with mixed schedules, baby diapers, and financial burden. Love is great, but mutual respect is just as important.
3. “If it’s Meant To Be It Will Happen”
No it won’t. Only people that fail say this. Much like destiny. YOU have to make it happen. You have to have the passion to keep it alive. If you really want something there should be nothing in your way to stop you. If it doesn’t. You never wanted it in the first place. You’re the only person that tells you it’s meant to be or not.
4. “Be With Someone That Makes You Happy”
You make yourself happy. No one should ever be in charge of your happiness. You should be happy with him and without him. I only say him because I know there are zero straight men that need this advice.
5. “If You Love Something Let It Go, If It Doesn’t It Was Never Meant to Be”
I don’t know about you but once you let me go I’m saying “goodbye”. If I come back it’s because I forgot a shirt.
6. “True Friends Are Always There For Each Other”
I would have zero friends if this were true. Every person is different therefore every friendship is different. I have several friends I KNOW will never pick me up from the airport and for sure NEVER help me move. But they make me laugh and we have a great time together and sometimes they pick up the tab at dinner. If you expect something out of a friendship then maybe you’re the one being shitty.
7. Anyone’s Dreams Can Come True
No they won’t. Not everyone will win an Oscar, not everyone will cure cancer and not everyone will have a threesome with Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie. You can work your ass off trying but at the end you may be stuck wishing you actually enjoyed yourself more..ha. Dreams are great. They get our engines going. At some point, however, chasing those dreams will bring you down another path that may actually make you much happier than the dream itself. Walt Disney was notorious for saying this, it was easy for him…why? Because his did come true. Ask any Nigerian Slave if they believe this, I’m sure they’ll say something different.